Making peace with seeing myself in photos…

Generally, the way we view ourselves is quite limited. If you’re like me, I only see myself in a mirror from my waist up & not for very long.

So getting a photo shoot done can feel like you’re “exposing” yourself…

When getting photographed, you’re forced to hand over control to someone else and hope that what comes back aligns with the self-image you have been cultivating. It’s important to add here too, that mirrors are reversing what you see…

I’ve heard it all - the things people say to “buffer the impact” of getting their photos back. Mostly “I am not very photogenic” - thing is, you truly are… the real you is right there - you just gotta SEE it…

Have you noticed this situation?
You see a picture of a friend while you’re with them and you exclaim “you look beautiful”, but then she proceeds to criticise many facets of it?……………. that’s the trap we’re stuck in, us women…….

Now imagine when you see photos of yourself you flip that switch.
You find the good things about yourself! 🥰✨

This is what I have had to do. Since having a co-shooter I end up with a lot of photos of me working and pose-testing etc. I’ve trained my mind to not react negatively. It’s hard, I am not going to lie! But now I am all good with it…. I am ageing and changing, and I am just me. I am also not simply a-photo. I am a moving, talking, thinking, human!

And in most of my photos I am literally in my zone, WORKING!

That authenticity is what we want to capture for you. You’re not a model and you don’t have to be like one. This is your work, hopefully your happy place, and when people get the privilege of SEEING you for real, your potential clients will be interested in you and all your awesomeness

Someone said to me recently…
“You gotta own your shit!, what’s the worst that can happen?”

Nykie xx | www.sheshoots.co.nz

All the following photos are of me working and are shot by Helen Dol.